So, how’s your 2020 been? As I write this blog, I’m getting used to yet another blow to personal freedom, the 9pm curfew. Even my parents didn’t have me home that early in my not-so-rebellious teenage years.
It is easy to feel sorry for ourselves, and we should take some time to grieve. Things you might have lost could include a loved one, a job, savings, planned retirement date, faith in our national institutions, graduation celebrations, live concerts, baseball, or summer camp/vacations with your kids. That list barely scratches the surface.
As your therapist may tell you, feel your feelings. It’s okay to experience anger and sadness when life throws up roadblocks. Otherwise, you can’t feel happiness. It’s kind of like the stock market – without the occasional downs, you can’t get the ups.
The Asian cultures refer to this dualism as Yin and Yang – that’s right, it’s more than just a tattoo you got on your ankle in college.
Eventually, you may decide to brush the dust off your butt and start to feel less and do more. Doing is where you can feel more power over your situation.
Where to start? How about taking the school model of the Three Rs? Just like the school model, not all of my phases begin with R! They are: Resilience, Recovery, and new Reality*.
Over the next 3 blogs, I’ll explore each phase in more detail. Stay tuned for next week’s topic – Resilience.
*This idea was lifted from my husband. CLICK HERE to see his original article (very corporate telecom-centric).